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Lillie Lee, LCSW

Embrace Your Perfection

We all carry many beliefs about our world and ourselves and some beliefs about perfection. The following is a perspective from Jess Lair in speaking of the Zulus in Africa.

  They grow up knowing that beauty doesn’t have anything to do with their hairdos or their clothes or their face or their figure. But its got to do with the fact that they are uniquely created by God and so are beautiful. Isn’t that some idea? We Puritans know that that’s nothing to believe. The only beautiful people are those who are God-fearing people and do as the good book says and get all kinds of rewards right now. Anybody who has got a wart on their face, why they must have done something spiteful to God because he was looking down and gave them that wart on their face, everybody knows that.  

Many people grow up lacking enough love and as a result carry limiting beliefs. This impacts the ability to love others and ourselves, which typically give rise to thoughts such as: if I have an illness then something is wrong with me or If I get sick I did something wrong.

In 1984, with no family history, I was diagnosed with Juvenile diabetes and became insulin dependent. With this condition I heard a voice inside say, “who could love you now?” I felt shame, flawed and unlovable causing me to hide my condition. I watched people snack on junk food, and I felt different, left out, envious.

I’ve heard of people with illness who wondered what they have done to deserve an illness and what was happening in their lives. Some saw illness or disease as a punishment, a failing. I felt it a sign of my imperfection, which would create an inability for others to show love toward me. This belief did not serve me nor help with my self-care. As I worked to embrace my loveable ness on a deeper level the diabetes became a teacher and a gift about how to care for myself on many levels.

When we live in a culture that does not joy in our presence or fill our cups, we may develop beliefs about ourselves that are limiting and destructive to our being. Beliefs of limitation or imperfections keep us from striving to become all we are capable of in life and accomplishing all our desire. Every one of us can claim the perfection of our birth as we are uniquely made in God’s perfection. This is a lesson I relearn periodically. With or without diabetes I am beautiful and loveable. I am God’s perfection and so are you.

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