We all carry many beliefs about our world and ourselves and some
beliefs about perfection. The following is a perspective from
Jess Lair in speaking of the Zulus in Africa.
grow up knowing that beauty doesn’t have anything to
do with their hairdos or their clothes or their face or their
figure. But its got to do with the fact that they are uniquely
created by God and so are beautiful. Isn’t that some
idea? We Puritans know that that’s nothing to believe.
The only beautiful people are those who are God-fearing people
and do as the good book says and get all kinds of rewards
right now. Anybody who has got a wart on their face, why they
must have done something spiteful to God because he was looking
down and gave them that wart on their face, everybody knows
people grow up lacking enough love and as a result carry limiting
beliefs. This impacts the ability to love others and ourselves,
which typically give rise to thoughts such as: if I have an
illness then something is wrong with me or If I get sick
I did something wrong.
In 1984, with no family history, I was diagnosed with Juvenile
diabetes and became insulin dependent. With this condition I heard
a voice inside say, “who could love you now?” I felt
shame, flawed and unlovable causing me to hide my condition. I
watched people snack on junk food, and I felt different, left
I’ve heard of people with illness who wondered what they
have done to deserve an illness and what was happening in their
lives. Some saw illness or disease as a punishment, a failing.
I felt it a sign of my imperfection, which would create an inability
for others to show love toward me. This belief did not serve me
nor help with my self-care. As I worked to embrace my loveable
ness on a deeper level the diabetes became a teacher and a gift
about how to care for myself on many levels.
When we live in a culture that does not joy in our presence or
fill our cups, we may develop beliefs about ourselves that are
limiting and destructive to our being. Beliefs of limitation or
imperfections keep us from striving to become all we are capable
of in life and accomplishing all our desire. Every one of us can
claim the perfection of our birth as we are uniquely made in God’s
perfection. This is a lesson I relearn periodically. With or without
diabetes I am beautiful and loveable. I am God’s perfection
and so are you.
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